Unintended Confession
It is only after the quick look from the eyes across the room focus on you that you realize the secret thought you were enjoying has just left your mouth. You've said it out loud. Oh Dear!
Once the words have drifted across the berber you wonder if there is any way to buffer the impact. But that would be much like trying to take back the pockmarks from the beefsteak you just pounded out for dinner.
You realize you own the damage from the personal retort you just spewed at the innocent bystander. You may also consider that the entire gathering knows your darkest thoughts. Now what?
There are many things you could choose to do. The bravest may be immediately and publicly apologize, acknowledging that you are likely not as nice as they all believe and that indeed you could have said anything or nothing far better had you a brain.
It is anticipated that you will need to grovel, rightfully so, to the intended target as well as anyone who may have been spattered by association. How well and sincerely you own the verbal assault will determine how long it will float in the atmosphere.
Act immediately, be humble, own every toxic word and say you're sorry. The words, say them, a couple times. If you are not sure how to say them (there are such people), take a class, practice, read a book. Keep them in your vocabulary, easily accessible. You will find life is better when used often. Remember, it's not about you. Really!
jlg5/20/19(c)
Once the words have drifted across the berber you wonder if there is any way to buffer the impact. But that would be much like trying to take back the pockmarks from the beefsteak you just pounded out for dinner.
You realize you own the damage from the personal retort you just spewed at the innocent bystander. You may also consider that the entire gathering knows your darkest thoughts. Now what?
There are many things you could choose to do. The bravest may be immediately and publicly apologize, acknowledging that you are likely not as nice as they all believe and that indeed you could have said anything or nothing far better had you a brain.
It is anticipated that you will need to grovel, rightfully so, to the intended target as well as anyone who may have been spattered by association. How well and sincerely you own the verbal assault will determine how long it will float in the atmosphere.
Act immediately, be humble, own every toxic word and say you're sorry. The words, say them, a couple times. If you are not sure how to say them (there are such people), take a class, practice, read a book. Keep them in your vocabulary, easily accessible. You will find life is better when used often. Remember, it's not about you. Really!
jlg5/20/19(c)
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