History

Ever have a conversation or argument or laugh that you think you have before? Matter of fact you are certain you have been on this merry go round many times? History. It is true that history repeats itself. Things that have happened in the past will most assuredly happen again if people or situations don't change. Good or bad, we can ride the same ride over and over. What we choose to do with those rides is up to us.

A good laugh is a wonderful thing. You tell a joke that gets a great laugh and you can use it every where you go as an ice breaker or to make someones day or you can even tell it to someone with memory problems and they will think it is new each time they hear it. That might sound unkind, but some of the old people have a short cycle and can be entertained by the same joke or concerned about the same issues several times a day! It's true. The benefit is you don't have to come up with so many new things to talk about when you visit. But the advise would be to have some backup material on the ready so you are prepared for a seasoned audience.

A conversation can be a wonderful thing the first time around and if you are me possibly even as enjoyable the second time around:) While I am not old, I do have a hitch in my memory that causes a few gaps in the synapses leaving a chasm for information to get lost in. The good thing about this is I am great person to confide in as I will almost certainly forget what you tell me. The bad thing is you may have to tell me again to get it back in the "loop". What gets bad, annoying, down right crazy is having the same discussion time on end. it never changes, the players are the same, the topic is the same and there is never a change or solution because it never matures. It is stunted like the growth of a chain smoking 7 year old. It is going no where.

An argument can be resolved immediately if both parties will step back, review and compromise. But when one refuses to share the load or puts their foot down to discussion the situation will never change. And just like you can't repeat a process and expect a different solution, you can't expect a situation to improve if everyone involved does not share in the responsibility of change. It is like driving your car on a tank of gas until the red light comes on and you get stranded on the side of the road. If you never decide to add gas before the light comes on or when the light comes on you will always end up on the side of the road. Advise to you, wear good walking shoes:)

So what can we observe about history. It is good to have a laugh or two. That has stood the test of time. Discussions or conversations can be enjoyable as long as they are nurtured and matured, able to move on and grow into other topics. Only then can progress in relationships personal or professional be moved to a more in depth or trusting level. Arguments while painful can bring about great change if each party will share in the responsibility and be willing to make change or compromise to reach a mutual respect and understanding. And what is great is it can all be done with a good laugh and some healthy conversation!